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Things Taken, Things Remain
Posted in family, Imagery, poetry, tagged Bill Griffin, Charlotte Lit, imagery, Irene Blair Honeycutt, Mountains of the Moon, nature photography, NC Poets, poetry, Southern writing on January 3, 2025| 3 Comments »
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He, the oldest, was / the last to leave and / took our childhood with him.
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[with 3 poems by Irene Blair Honeycutt]
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When the Last Page Turns
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When the last page turns
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will I step into a star
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on a moonless night
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or drift deep into the dark
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maybe alight on your door screen
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a firefly – a single green lantern?
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Wherever I was when last
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you read me
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let the empty space
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remember
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Irene Blair Honeycutt
from Mountains of the Moon, Charlotte Lit Press, Charlotte NC; © 2024
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My mother has died. I am no longer a child.
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What has she taken with her? I remember her fingers like butterflies across the keys, the baby grand in the tiny house on Marion Road. She played Mozart’s Rondo alla Turca at warp speed while Bob and I, three and five, whirled and flailed and leaped until we collapsed in convulsions of laughter. She gave us music, yes, and art and games and stories, but what I remember is the laughing.
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Such a childhood she gave us. An old wig, staring eyes painted on her cheekbones, she became a wooly booger to take me trick-or-treating next door. The neighbors startled, then laughed, dubious, not entirely certain it was really her. She was sixty-five, I was forty, such children.
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All the quiet moments before and between, quieter and quieter as her days slowed and faded – thank God I slowed enough with her to share a few. She had been the wizard of noticing, of pattern recognition, spotting a prothonotary warbler, racing the last few pieces into another puzzle at the beach or in her townhouse living room. These past years I named for her the house finch on the feeder, pushed pieces on the table to be closer to where they would fit. Helped with the morning crossword she used to whipsaw in ink. Held a napkin to catch drips from her popsicle on the front porch.
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Who foresees becoming a parent to their parent? Who wants that job? My mother has passed into that kingdom where all she has left to bestow are memories. Her last power, her final gift. Has she taken everything else with her? Innocence? Joy? My childhood?
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No. Not at all. In the nursing home, I lean my bald head to thunk against my equally bald father’s. We laugh. Such children.
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Joy
++++++++++ after Mary Szybist
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I had the happy idea I could be eating breakfast at my
++ friend’s table in California and become bees pollinating
++ her roses.
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Over oatmeal and blueberries, I saw the Lafayette hills mixed
++ with shadow and light reflected in the patio window.
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I had the happy idea I could enter the reflection and begin
++ hiking the path to the eucalyptus trees.
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Sitting in the gravity chair on the deck, I imagined myself
++ a passenger on a jet, flying East of Eden on a Long Day’s
++ Journey into Night.
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I had the happy idea I could be both the seashell sunning in
++ a Peruvian basket and hot-pink geraniums soaking up
++ water in terra-cotta pots.
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I had the happy idea I could become Jarrell’s bat-poet, hitch
++ a ride on a red-shouldered hawk, write a poem while
++ hovering above the witch’s house after Gretel pushes her
++ into the oven.
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I had the happy idea apples and walnuts and pomegranates
++ could mingle. A host of flavors and fragrances never
++ before tasted or smelled would be born.
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My happiest wish was that the ocean would wash over my
++ skin and purify the life within my body. The marrow
++ of my bones, the tissue beneath my skull, would all be
++ renewed.
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And if I truly imagined myself as happy, the pines with
++ candle-like candelabras would light up each night. No
++ one would even try to explain the mystery.
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Irene Blair Honeycutt
from Mountains of the Moon, Charlotte Lit Press, Charlotte NC; © 2024
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In A Song for the Hours, Irene Blair Honeycutt eulogizes the commonplace and the exalted: railroad spikes and a dead possum, John Donne and Typhoid Mary, a fragment of memory and a burst of birdsong. The message of the poem and the power of every poem in the collection resides in Song’s closing line: I am here. Irene fully inhabits the hours, the moments, and breathes them into poetry.
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To notice: superpower of poets, gift of the muse, or hard-won skill requiring grueling apprenticeship? Read Mountains of the Moon and you may discover clues. Irene gathers places she has known deeply, music and art that have touched her, friendships and griefs, and awakens them – she gives them new life. Perhaps the “noticing” is equal parts paying attention to what is happening around you as well as to the warp and weft within that weave the fabric of your soul. Because Irene’s poems are taken from her true experience and inner truth, then freely, openly given to us, we readers may also be drawn into the noticing.
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A confession: I often tell myself I have nothing left to write. Then I spend an hour with a book like Mountains of the Moon and discover threads within myself that have been calling to untangle themselves into words. Reading poetry has power to jiggle the notice! synapses. And, as usual, the most profound thing one notices is that we humans share in common a wealth of pain and joy. A gift indeed.
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The opening line of today’s selection is from Irene Blair Honeycutt’s Why, among my brothers.
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Mountains of the Moon, by Irene Blair Honeycutt, is available from Charlotte Lit Press.
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Milkweed, Jonas Ridge, NC
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That spring she planted milkweed across the road from
Cozie Cottage on Bald Mountain. It was 2008. Thought
she was doing it for the butterflies.
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By 2010 the milkweed had spread across the field, reaching
the apple trees. During the Great Migration, waves of
Monarchs followed invisible scents
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to her place. Spent several splendid nights. Imagine ecstasy.
Plentiful drumming, feeding, laying of eggs.
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Before they left, Susan drove her mother through
the wonder of it all –
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Grandfather Mountain watching in the distance.
In 2014 her mother, at 96, took flight.
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Though the milkweed has thinned and moved down
the slope, it remains a plant of hope. 2024.
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For the Monarch. The earth.
And for the memories it sows.
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Irene Blair Honeycutt
from Mountains of the Moon, Charlotte Lit Press, Charlotte NC; © 2024
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That Isn’t Me
Posted in family, Imagery, poetry, tagged Anything That Happens, Bill Griffin, Cheryl Wilder, family, imagery, nature photography, NC Poetry Society, NC Poets, NCPS, poetry, Press 53, Southern writing on December 6, 2024| 7 Comments »
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[with 3 poems by Cheryl Wilder]
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Anything That Happens
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Until I was twenty, I believed anything
wouldn’t happen to me.
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Walking from the car,
leaving you behind,
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sirens whining louder as they closed on us;
I didn’t understand anything
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had just happened.
People said it wasn’t my fault
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and for reassurance,
It could have been me. But
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I heard what they didn’t say.
I’m so glad it wasn’t.
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Cheryl Wilder
from Anything That Happens, Press 53, Winston-Salem NC; © 2021.
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It’s 1990 and my kids are cruising toward teenagerdom. Every week in the throw-away medical journals that cross my desk there’s at least one article with a title like We Never Even Suspected, or Why Me? The doctor or doctor’s spouse laments about their teen who is (pick one): flunking out of college; a closet alcoholic; pregnant out of wedlock; addicted to Percocet. That becomes the one article I am compelled to read before assigning the journal to the round file. It’s a solid principal of statistics: if it happened to them it’s that much less likely to happen to me.
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Because today in 1990 my kids are, well, not perfect but above average. They are so good. And I am so good. Whatever that other doctor did to cause his child to go wrong, I would never do that. Because somehow at this interchange along the cosmic highway I am totally in charge of (and totally to blame for) all the choices my kids are making and will make.
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And responsible, of course, for all the rest, now and forever after. Are my parents happy? Is my wife fulfilled? Are my grandkids smart? Is there crabgrass in the flower bed? (Well, maybe I am responsible for that one.) Don’t worry, I am not poised here to write an article titled Everything That Would Have Been Better if I Were Better. That’s between me and 4 AM.
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Instead, I’m attempting a more compelling practice. A practice without textbooks or certification exams. One that requires nothing but offers everything. A practice never free from pain but sometimes tinged with joy. All that this practice endeavors is to prod a slight change in phraseology, poke a minor shift in frame of reference. When I learn of your misfortune, when you tell me about your pain, when I recognize that you are suffering, I will try my best not to say to myself I’m glad that isn’t me, and instead I will say, That is me.
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Xing
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I don’t know how I brought a child
into the world when I can’t reconcile
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if crashing a car and a friend’s skull
is karmic debt created
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or payment for a past immoral act.
I open doors and say thank you and do not try
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to behave in a way I cannot afford.
There’s no barometer, no way to know
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if the pendulum is swinging
away or toward, how many pay-it-forwards it takes
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before I break even at the gambling table.
I cold blend in with the pure
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if it weren’t for the scars that don’t fade
no matter how many turtles I save,
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so am I all that surprised
when my little boy tells me
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of his palpable fear
to cross the street.
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Cheryl Wilder
from Anything That Happens, Press 53, Winston-Salem NC; © 2021.
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Sostenuto – a musical notation indicating a passage sustained to the utmost. Unrelenting. Imagine a violin’s piercing note, almost impossibly high and rising, horsehair glissando across the E-string. Now it’s joined in harmony by the A-string, discordant, the two dancing and warring with each other. They weave pitch and volume but never rest, sostenuto. You lean forward on the edge of your hard seat, your teeth are on edge, you want, you need, you crave desperately some resolution.
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Cheryl Wilder sustains tension throughout sixty-four pages to the ultimate climax of Anything That Happens. Her story is too piercing: one tastes blood and tears. She lives every moment with that high, sharp note, days and years of guilt and pain – she has irretrievably damaged her friend – and then also weaves discordant disharmonies from her cold relationship with her mother and her non-relationship with her father. More than once I had to lay the book aside and breathe deeply to slow my pounding heart.
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And more than once I resisted the urge to flip pages to the end. Who doesn’t crave resolution? What follows in this post today is the book’s penultimate poem. Some hurt can never be removed. No one can return to the moment before anything happens. Scars are just that, permanent marks and reminders of pain. How do any of us go on living? How? I invite you to enter the music of this book, its atonality and discord, one poem after another, until you reach its final page.
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Anything That Happens by Cheryl Wilder is a Tom Lombardo Poetry Selection and is available at Press 53. Among other awards, the book was a finalist for the 2022 Brockman-Campbell Award of the North Carolina Poetry Society; read an additional poem from the collection and celebrate 90 years of NCPS HERE.
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Home Safe
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Friends visit the hospital
where I am not wanted. It’s just as well
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that I stay in bed, carve poplar
into a shield I can place between
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myself and others, learn you wake
from a coma by the drop
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of my manslaughter charge. Years pass
before I hear your voice again,
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asking me to lunch over the phone, your mother
telling me I am only allowed in her home
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because you found my number
on your own. You reach for my arm
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to steady your walk, lean close
to see me in focus, your smile wide
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on one side of your face, brightened even more
at the restaurant when you flirt with the waiter.
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That is enough, to see a glimpse of the friend
I once knew, but then you reach cross the table
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for my hands, look at me to say
what you defied your mother to say,
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It’s not your fault. Over and again,
I forgive you. You can’t remember
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the night I cannot forget, but you know
your words are my salvation.
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There is no talk of next time.
You get out of the car and walk
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into the house, back to your mother
who can breathe once again.
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Cheryl Wilder
from Anything That Happens, Press 53, Winston-Salem NC; © 2021.
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Thanks, Jenny! ---B